“Every wise woman buildeth her house, but the foolish
plucketh it down with her hands.”
This week, like a knife in the gut, I learned that a friend
had gotten a divorce.
The strangest thing about it is that the husband is a fine
Christian man, and they had a desire to serve the Lord.
How can two people who love the Lord get along so badly
that they get a divorce??
My husband and I have been talking at length lately,
discussing the road so many people travel which leads to divorce. It appears as though a pattern ultimately
lead to the demise of the family.
For
now, however, let’s talk about:
{How a
wise woman can build her house}
Imagine a man building a wall. Brick by brick, piece by piece, he lays down
first the foundation, and then the first layer, and the second, and so on. He works with a smile, knowing this is for
his family, whom he loves dearly. It may
not be perfect, because he’s only young and has never done this before, but his
heart is in it, and it is his own personal labor of love.
Soon his wife appears.
He looks at her with a grin but stops when he notices her frown. Striding to the wall, she points at it and
sneers, “What’s this? A mess?? What are you thinking?!? I can’t believe you would try to build a wall
using those bricks!” She begins pulling at the blocks, berating
him at the same time. He drops his head
and slowly walks away, shoulders drooping.
That woman is fast on her way to tearing down her house, and
living in low-income housing with no protection whatsoever.
How can this marriage be
saved? What can be done to help this
situation?
Here are some ideas my husband and I thought of for building
a strong marriage:
1.
Don’t tear down the wall your husband is trying to build. Simply have a little self-control and keep your mouth shut.
This is where a direct line to God is
really wonderful! You may not be able to
say anything to anybody, but does that mean you have to leave it festering
inside? Of course not! Does that mean that nothing will ever be done
about the situation?? Of course
not! Why not take your frustrations too
the Lord, who can turn the rivers! (see
Proverbs 21:1)
2.
Decorate the wall! Make
the most out of a less-than-perfect situation!
So your man wants to start up a new business, and you have to sacrifice
to help come up with the needed money.
You may even think he will fail!
The wall seems crooked and out of fashion. That’s ok; make the most of it! Support your husband, be his
cheerleader! Determine that you will be
happy, no matter what, because happiness is not in happenings, it is in the
Lord. Decorate that wall, crooked though
it may be, and your good taste and cheer will be the driving force behind his
success.
3.
Admire the good that he does – out loud! (And don’t forget to feel his strong muscles every once in a while!) J
It sure does add some
honey to the romance.
4.
Praise for effort, not performance. Thank him for his hard work on a job or
around the house.
5.
Support him by making good meals and
greeting him nicely dressed.
No hair-rollers when hubby comes to the door!
6.
Visit him
while he’s involved in his projects; sometimes you can even co-labor
with him. For example, you could bring
him iced tea while he’s mowing the grass.
7.
Ask the
Lord to help you build up your marriage and not tear it down. Marriages do not fall apart in a night, and
they do not get built in a night. Be
willing to take some time to work on it and wait patiently for the rewards.
The rewards may be long in coming, but they will come! After all, where
will you be in ten years? Determine that
you will be happily married (to the same man, of course!).
Let’s
do what we can to build up our marriages.
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| Jonathan & Brooke - December 10, 2011 |
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| "I now pronounce you man and wife" |
Keep the home fires burning!
